SEXUAL intimacy is a key component of marriage as it played a key role in marriage as a way of acknowledging God who gave it as a gift to married couples.
This was said by Pastor Simba Shamu and his wife, Ivy, who were guests of honour at the New Life
Covenant Church (NLCC)’s You and I special couples’ meeting held under the theme, “Healthy Sexuality: Intimacy in Marriage”.
Pastor Shamu said it was important for those in marriage to acknowledge their spouses.
“By acknowledging that you are different, you help to enhance the relationship because your pleasure should not over rule your spouse discomfort and always deal with underline issues whilst being intimate,” he said.
Pastor Samhu said if couples neglected intimacy, they gave room for the devil to interfere with their marriage as underlined in the Bible.
“The Bible in 1 Corinthians 7 verse 5 says not being intimate gives room for the devil to intervene in your marriage life and defile your marriage bed because anything that spoils your sexual appetite defiles your marriage,” he said.
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Pastor Shamu further said if married couples lacked intimacy that would interfere with the other areas of their lives.
“We can’t be creative at work and fail to be creative sexually. We serve a creative God and we are made in his own image so we must be creative in our sexual life for the enjoyment of the marriage,” he said.
Pastor Simba and his wife also explored the ways to healthy sexuality and intimacy, citing security, acknowledging God, acknowledging each other, and dealing with underlying issues while being intimate.
Pastor Ivy said the husband or wife should not do things that would make their spouse question their total commitment to the marriage.
“If one does things that make the other question their commitment, it makes them unavailable to you. As human beings, we want to hear and have that assurance that we are still on the same path and that our future is secure,” she said.
“We may not verbalise it every day, but we need to know if we are still secure in the marriage.
Insecurity also comes in body shaming, as we progress in our lives our body changes so if you have that spouse that tells you that this body is not good or sexy anymore, it means that they are no longer secure in the marriage.”
Pastor Shamu concurred and said if one felt their security was compromised in marriage, it would be difficult for them to release sexually, therefore creating an unhealthy sexuality.’
“Let’s encourage each other, be it in our bodies, because you know your goals; show that you are still attracted to your spouse so that they feel secure,” he said.
NLCC administrator, Pastor Zephaniah Chakawa told ZimGospel Masters that the church’s Married Ministry organised the programme to empower married couples in line with the church’s vision: transforming people, transforming nations.
“The programme was an eye opener and brought enlightenment to the couples to strengthen their marriages,” he said.
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